3.
Prayer life
Part
of being a Christian is developing our relationship with God. Part of
developing any relationship is communicating. Us communicating to God
is called praying. It doesn’t have to be in fancy language: you
wouldn’t try that on your human friends! It doesn’t always have
to be in words even. The important thing is communicating.
Where
is God while you are talking to him? You are now a child of God; the
Holy Spirit now lives in you. (Being spirit he can do that and live
simultaneously in any number of other people) So your prayers don’t
have to “go” anywhere, God has come
you.
You
cannot tell God anything he doesn’t already know, but he still
likes you to tell him. That is how relationships grow. Also part of
telling him things is for our benefit. He is day by day changing our
attitudes and habits of mind to make us the person he would like us
to be. That is to be a person who is uniquely “us” but who is
imitating Jesus in all important aspects. As we tell him how we see
things, if we will let him he can start to help us understand how he
sees them, and that is really important in our growth.
Yes
of course God knows what we need before we ask. Tha is not the point.
The point is we are developing a relationship with him.
He likes us
to ask!
One reason is given in Psalm 50.15 “and
call on me in the day of trouble;
I
will deliver you, and you will honor me.”
When
we ask and he helps us, we know it was him and can honour him for it.
Another
reason is that asking can be a growth experience. Will God give you
anything you ask for? No. I don’t mean God ever lacks the power
to do anything he wishes to do. That is never his situation.
But there are reasons why he will not do everything we ask. Here are
some common ones:-
1.
God is utterly good, and there are many
things we humans do – and may ask him to do - which he would never
even think of doing. God would never tell a lie. God would never
break a promise. God would never do anything unfair or unjust. As
baby Christians some of our prayers are going to be for things that
seemed OK to us before we became Christians, but which are not God’s
way of doing things. If we pray for these things, God will not do
them – no matter how grand a tantrum we throw - and that can be a
learning opportunity for us.
2. We
are spiritual babies. Even human parents safeguard
their children by saying “No” to requests that would be
dangerous.
If
a child saw
their parent preparing
dinner with a sharp knife and wanted mummy or daddy to give them the
knife to play with. Would
a good parent
would give it to them?3. We
never know everything. We will to the end of our days be asking God
to do things we think would be good which he does not do. Sometimes
we get to look back and realize “Am I ever glad God did not answer
that prayer! What I wanted then would have been a disaster”.
Sometimes
we don’t get this hindsight and just have to trust that he knew
something we didn’t.
The
best human parents will often refuse to give their child junk food
just before dinner, or let them watch just one more TV show before
bed no matter how much their child demands it. But should that same
parent hear a scream of terror from their child they will come
running and prepared to fight to the death to save their baby. God
is to us a perfect parent. There are things he will not do no matter
how much or how well we pray but even the most inarticulate desperate
cry to him for help from one of his little ones can result in a more
powerful miracle then all the prayers of some great saint.
There
is nothing we can ask God to do for others or for his work in the
world that he could not perform without our asking. But he seems to
like to take us into a sort of junior partnership, where parts of his
work he shares with us by letting us ask, and then he does the part
requiring his power. One example from the Bible is Paul’s request
for the believers to pray for his work spreading the gospel in
Colossians 4 “ 2 Devote
yourselves to prayer, being watchful and thankful. 3 And
pray for us, too, that God may open a door for our message, so that
we may proclaim the mystery of Christ, for which I am in
chains. 4 Pray
that I may proclaim it clearly, as I should.”
Three
common abuses of prayer you are likely to encounter are these.
A).
Treating prayer as a way to
manipulate God to get what we want, not as part of our relationship
with a loving heavenly father.
At
the light end of this practice, people can talk about “prayer
achieving this or that”. It then develops into an attitude that
somehow we
make it happen by doing this thing called prayer. It is a bad
attitude, and really needs to be nipped in the bud. It is God who
does things. When he lets us share his work by letting us pray, or
prompting us to pray and then doing his act of power it is thrilling
and exciting and wonderful – just as long as we remember to picture
ourselves as the toddler “helping” daddy carry the heavy bucket
of water! It is a thing God is doing with us because that is the sort
of thing that good fathers and their little kids do together.
Just
remember NOT to imitate the spoilt toddler who throws a tantrum
because daddy steers the bucket to the rose garden not to the mud pit
the toddler wants to make to play in! Spiritually, just
as humanly, that behaviour is
bound to end in tears!
At
the really bad end we end up trying to be magicians – using
“prayer” as some sort of magic to bring about what we want
supernaturally regardless of God’s purposes. This one does not just
end in tears: unless we are rescued, it ends in hell! There is a
great description of an event in Acts that resulted in converts
confessing that they had just added Christianity to their store of
magic. I this instance they repented.
(Acts 19. 13-20) 13 Some
Jews who went around driving out evil spirits tried to invoke the
name of the Lord Jesus over those who were demon-possessed. They
would say, “In the name of the Jesus whom Paul preaches, I command
you to come out.” 14 Seven
sons of Sceva, a Jewish chief priest, were doing this. 15 One
day the evil spirit answered them, “Jesus I know, and Paul I know
about, but who are you?” 16 Then
the man who had the evil spirit jumped on them and overpowered them
all. He gave them such a beating that they ran out of the house naked
and bleeding.
17 When
this became known to the Jews and Greeks living in Ephesus, they were
all seized with fear, and the name of the Lord Jesus was held in high
honor. 18 Many
of those who believed now came and openly confessed what they had
done. 19 A
number who had practiced sorcery brought their scrolls together and
burned them publicly. When they calculated the value of the scrolls,
the total came to fifty thousand drachmas.[c] 20 In
this way the word of the Lord spread widely and grew in power.
An
example of the difference between what the Bible means by prayer and
what people often mistake it as can be found in 1 Kings 18.
The
King of Israel had married a feisty Sidonian princess named Jezebel.
She worshiped the Sidonian god Baal, who they thought controlled the
weather. Jezebel promoted Baal worship in Israel, and by the time she
had either killed or forced into hiding all the ministers of God,
Baal worship took over. God sent his prophet Elijah to throw down the
gauntlet by announcing a drought. After three years with no rain
Elijah challenged the king to assemble all the ministers of Baal to a
contest on Mount Carmel. They could build an altar to Baal but not
light the fire. He would build an altar to God, but not light the
fire. The ministers of Baal would pray, Elijah would pray. The deity
that answered by setting fire to his altar was the real god.
(I
Kings 18. 25-39)25 Then
Elijah said to the prophets of Baal, “You go first, for there are
many of you. Choose one of the bulls, and prepare it and call on the
name of your god. But do not set fire to the wood.”
26 So
they prepared one of the bulls and placed it on the altar. Then they
called on the name of Baal from morning until noontime, shouting, “O
Baal, answer us!” But there was no reply of any kind. Then they
danced, hobbling around the altar they had made.
27 About
noontime Elijah began mocking them. “You’ll have to shout
louder,” he scoffed, “for surely he is a god! Perhaps he is
daydreaming, or is relieving himself.[b] Or
maybe he is away on a trip, or is asleep and needs to be wakened!”
28 So
they shouted louder, and following their normal custom, they cut
themselves with knives and swords until the blood gushed out. 29 They
raved all afternoon until the time of the evening sacrifice, but
still there was no sound, no reply, no response.
30 Then
Elijah called to the people, “Come over here!” They all crowded
around him as he repaired the altar of the Lord that
had been torn down. 31 He
took twelve stones, one to represent each of the tribes of
Israel,[c] 32and
he used the stones to rebuild the altar in the name of the Lord.
Then he dug a trench around the altar large enough to hold about
three gallons.[d] 33 He
piled wood on the altar, cut the bull into pieces, and laid the
pieces on the wood.
Then
he said, “Fill four large jars with water, and pour the water over
the offering and the wood.”
34 After
they had done this, he said, “Do the same thing again!” And when
they were finished, he said, “Now do it a third time!” So they
did as he said, 35 and
the water ran around the altar and even filled the trench.
36 At
the usual time for offering the evening sacrifice, Elijah the prophet
walked up to the altar and prayed, “O Lord,
God of Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob,[e] prove
today that you are God in Israel and that I am your servant. Prove
that I have done all this at your command. 37 O
Lord,
answer me! Answer me so these people will know that you, O Lord,
are God and that you have brought them back to yourself.”
38 Immediately
the fire of the Lord flashed
down from heaven and burned up the young bull, the wood, the stones,
and the dust. It even licked up all the water in the trench! 39 And
when all the people saw it, they fell face down on the ground and
cried out, “The Lord—he
is God! Yes, the Lord is
God!”
The
ministers of Baal thought “prayer” worked (in the magic sense)
and they did it with a passion, and all day – but nothing happened.
Elijah believed God had sent him with instructions to set up this
contest so that God could perform a great sign to convince the people
and that God could be trusted to carry out his part.. His prayer was
simple, short and said plainly: ““O
Lord,
God of Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob,[e] prove
today that you are God in Israel and that I am your servant. Prove
that I have done all this at your command. 37 O
Lord,
answer me! Answer me so these people will know that you, O Lord,
are God and that you have brought them back to yourself.”
The answer was a really
spectacular miracle.
B).
Content-less prayer.
You
will hear this in the public prayers in many churches. Now of course
public prayer is a bit different to private prayer. It is corporate,
that is it is the action of a body of believers, even though just one
person may be saying the words. So the person saying the prayer does
have to be careful to pray things the whole body of believers can say
“Amen” to. That does limit what one aught to pray publicly for:
but you still have to be specific about what you are asking God to
do. Prayers that run like “We pray for the church in Africa, we
pray for the United Nations, we pray for …” are like posting
letters without writing anything on the inside.
So
if you are to pray for, say, the church in Africa, well what do you
as a congregation want God to do for your brothers and sisters there?
I suspect the lack of content of these prayers is often the result of
a lack of belief that God is real or capable of doing anything.
For
an example of public prayer that does have content the old Anglican
prayer book is a good model, the authors managed to compose prayers
that were so general they could be used in different situations
century after century but which still asked God to do something. If
we are going to pray in church for current circumstances and the
present needs of others we should be able to do better, not less than
this model! Here is just one example:
“Almighty
and everliving God,
who by thy holy Apostle hast taught us to
make prayers, and supplications, and to give thanks for all men;
We
humbly beseech thee most mercifully to
receive these our prayers, which we offer unto thy Divine Majesty;
beseeching thee to inspire continually the Universal Church with
the spirit of truth, unity, and concord:
And grant, that all they
who do confess thy holy Name may agree in the truth of thy holy Word,
and live in unity, and godly love.
We beseech thee also to save
and defend all Christian Kings, Princes, and Governors; and specially
thy Servant ELIZABETH our
Queen; that under her we may be godly and quietly governed:
And
grant unto her whole Council, and to all that are put in authority
under her, that they may truly and impartially administer justice, to
the punishment of wickedness and vice, and to the maintenance of thy
true religion, and virtue.
Give grace, O heavenly Father, to all
Bishops and Curates, that they may both by their life and doctrine
set forth thy true and lively Word, and rightly and duly administer
thy holy Sacraments.
And to all thy people give thy heavenly
grace; and especially to this congregation here present; that, with
meek heart and due reverence, they may hear, and receive thy holy
Word; truly serving thee in holiness and righteousness all the days
of their life.
And we most humbly beseech thee, of thy goodness,
O Lord, to comfort and succour all those who, in this transitory
life, are in trouble, sorrow, need, sickness, or any other adversity.
And we also bless thy holy Name for all thy servants departed
this life in thy faith and fear; beseeching thee to give us grace so
to follow their good examples, that with them we may be partakers of
thy heavenly kingdom.
Grant this, O Father, for Jesus Christ's
sake, our only Mediator and Advocate. Amen.”
C). Praying
to something other than God.
Over
the years we have had various Roman Catholic friends who were a great
inspiration and model to us for the way they could talk freely and
naturally about their Christian faith. But all the same some of them
have had attitudes to prayer that were not good. I know they were
just doing what they were taught from the cradle, and indeed God
seemed to cut them a great deal of slack and obviously answered their
prayers ! But that is no excuse for anyone else to adopt habits of
prayer that the Bible clearly shows are deficient if not downright
forbidden!
One
dear lady used to pray to her dead mother in law, because as a good
woman she would be in heaven and be able to take it up with Mary, and
then if Mary asked Jesus well as a good son he would do what his
mother asked! OK that is very human but it
is also very wrong!
What
does the Bible say?
a)
We are adopted sons and daughters with direct access to God, Father
Son and Holy Spirit
John
112 Yet
to all who did receive him, to those who believed in his name, he
gave the right to become children of God— 13 children
born not of natural descent, nor of human decision or a husband’s
will, but born of God.
Romans
8.1514 For
those who are led by the Spirit of God are the children of
God. 15 The
Spirit you received does not make you slaves, so that you live in
fear again; rather, the Spirit you received brought about your
adoption to sonship.[h]And
by him we cry, “Abba,[i] Father.” 16 The
Spirit himself testifies with our spirit that we are God’s
children.
Ephesians
2.1818 For
through him (Jesus)
we both have access to the Father by one Spirit.
b).
Jesus told us that the Holy Spirit would come and dwell in our
hearts, and through the Spirit he and the Father would be in us. So
we can pray to Father Son and Holy Spirit because they are in us. We
cannot pray to dead people, even saints or Mary because they do not
live in us!
We
are also strictly forbidden in the Bible from trying to talk to dead
people.
John
15 15 “If
you love me, keep my commands. 16 And
I will ask the Father, and he will give you another advocate to help
you and be with you forever— 17 the
Spirit of truth. The world cannot accept him, because it neither sees
him nor knows him. But you know him, for he lives with you and will
be[c] in
you. 18 I
will not leave you as orphans; I will come to you. … …
23 Jesus
replied, “Anyone
who loves me will obey my teaching. My Father will love them, and we
will come to them and make our home with them.
Isaiah
8.1919 When
someone tells you to consult mediums and spiritists, who whisper and
mutter, should not a people inquire of their God? Why consult the
dead on behalf of the living?
c)
It can lead to giving glory to
something other than God. Which God hates.
For
instance when we visited the island of Corfu we were told of the
deliverance of the city during the Ottoman attack in 1716. here is a
clip from the Wikipedia article:
“After
a great storm on 9 August—which the defenders attributed to the
intervention of Corfu's patron saint, Saint
Spyridon—caused
great casualties among the besiegers, the siege was broken off on 11
August and the last Ottoman forces withdrew on 20 August”
The
defenders had apparently been praying for deliverance, but when there
was great storm which caused the attackers to retreat did they
attribute it to God? No! What they did, and still do was to praise St
Spyridon for it! In the church in the city is his coffin to this day
with a continuous line of people filing past presumably praying to
his corpse!
This is not Christianity! It
is human religion pretending to be Christian. Spyridon (AD 270
– 348) himself was by
all accounts a fine Christian, in which case we can say he is now
with Christ in heaven. The corpse in the casket is not the living
Spiridon, it is just human remains: but it has become an idol and if
there is anything spiritual associated with it then according to the
Bible it is a demon (Deuteronomy
32 : “16 They
made him jealous with their foreign gods and
angered him with their detestable idols. 17They
sacrificed to demons, which are not God—“
and
1 Corinthians 10
“20
the sacrifices of pagans are offered to demons, not to God, and I do
not want you to be participants with demons.”)
What
does the Bible say about how God views this sort of behavior…
Deuteronomy
6.1414 Do
not follow other gods, the gods of the peoples around you; 15 for
the LORD your God, who is among you, is a jealous God and his anger
will burn against you, and he will destroy you from the face of the
land.
Isaiah
42:8 8 “I
am the LORD; that is my name!
I
will not yield my glory to another
or
my praise to idols.
So,
if you are going to pray: pray to God, Father Son Holy Spirit. If you
are going to give praise for answered prayer: give it to God alone.
Anything else is idolatry!
…………………………..
I
should of course not leave the topic of our prayer life without
pasting in some of Jesus teaching from Matthew 6.
“ 5 “When
you pray, don’t be like the hypocrites who love to pray publicly on
street corners and in the synagogues where everyone can see them. I
tell you the truth, that is all the reward they will ever get. 6 But
when you pray, go away by yourself, shut the door behind you, and
pray to your Father in private. Then your Father, who sees
everything, will reward you.
7 “When
you pray, don’t babble on and on as people of other religions do.
They think their prayers are answered merely by repeating their words
again and again.8 Don’t
be like them, for your Father knows exactly what you need even before
you ask him! 9 Pray
like this:
Our
Father in heaven,
may your
name be kept holy.
10 May
your Kingdom come soon.
May your will be done on
earth,
as it is in
heaven.
11 Give
us today the food we need,[a]
12 and
forgive us our sins,
as we
have forgiven those who sin against us.
13 And
don’t let us yield to temptation,[b]
but
rescue us from the evil one.[c]
14 “If
you forgive those who sin against you, your heavenly Father will
forgive you. 15 But
if you refuse to forgive others, your Father will not forgive your
sins.
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